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Overcoming morbid self-consciousness around others

By Leslie Vernick | September 15, 2008 |

Question: For as long as I can remember, I have been extremely shy and self-conscious. I constantly worry about what others think about me. I don’t feel worth much and have a very hard time asserting myself. I know this isn’t good but I don’t know how to change. Any suggestions? Elaine in CA. Answer: Being aware of your problems…

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My Wife Disrespects Me in Front of the Children

By Leslie Vernick | September 8, 2008 |

Question: My wife is extremely disrespectful to me and often uses four letter words in front of our children when she’s mad. I’ve told her it bothers me but she tells me to grow up and quit being a baby. I’ve tried just loving her in the hopes that she will change but so far, nothing changes. (Ron in GA)…

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Can I Withhold Sex from my Spouse?

By Leslie Vernick | September 2, 2008 |

Question: Do you ever recommend withholding sex as a consequence for destructive behavior? Laura in FL Answer: I don’t recommend a spouse withhold sex anymore than I would recommend that he or she withhold talking when angry. Touching and talking are the only channels that intimacy is expressed and experienced. If someone cuts off those channels when they are angry,…

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My husband likes to hike with another woman.

By Leslie Vernick | August 25, 2008 |

Question: Is it proper for a younger lady (age 57 – who looks much younger) to go hiking with 3 men (age 65-70), none of which is her husband? Due to my schedule, I am unable to hike with them. All of them are great mountain hikers, and they are very impressed with this woman. Two to four times a…

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My husband still wants to see another woman. What do I do?

By Leslie Vernick | August 18, 2008 |

Question: My husband confessed to adultery 4 years ago and till now, he wants to cling on to his “2nd wife”. I have chosen to stay on in this marriage and not fight in the worldly sense. However I wonder if that is wrongly telling him that it is alright to carry on this choice of lifestyle? (Elaine from MI)…

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Does Biblical Love Call Me To Share My Financial Assets?

By Leslie Vernick | August 11, 2008 |

Q. I am searching for Biblical truths in regards to an emotionally devastating situation in my marriage of 14 years. In short, my wife has called our marriage to an end if I do not include her name on all assets that I and my forefathers have worked for for the last 100 years. We both are re-married and both…

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Do I Have to Submit to My Husband?

By Leslie Vernick | August 4, 2008 |

Question: My husband constantly tells me I have to submit to him. There are times I seriously disagree with his decisions. What do I do? Joyce in Illinois Answer: It isn’t easy but submission is an important discipline in the spiritual life. It teaches us that we don’t have to have our own way and that some things are more…

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My Friend is Driving Me Crazy

By Leslie Vernick | July 28, 2008 |

Question I’ve developed what I thought was a good friendship with a woman at church but she is starting to drive me crazy. She calls me at least once a day and gets offended if I don’t return her call. I don’t have time to talk for hours on the phone. She also wants to spend lots of time together…

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Help, my daughter told me she is gay!

By Leslie Vernick | July 21, 2008 |

Dear Blog Readers: I apologize for my absence from my blog. My daughter recently got married and I took some time off just to be a “mom” and plan and recover from the wedding. It was great! If you want to see a picture, sign up for my newsletter at my home page www.leslievernick.com. A photo will be in August’s…

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