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In their own words after experiencing Leslie Vernick & Co.

Leslie shows a deep understanding of how God’s character and redemptive plan inform the church’s response to abuse.

Matt Chandler - Lead Teaching Pastor at The Village Church

Leslie shows a deep understanding of how God’s character and redemptive plan inform the church’s response to abuse. Simultaneously, she is very well acquainted with the church’s troubled history of dealing with this issue with the seriousness and intentionality that is necessary. We have no doubt that Leslie will be a fantastic resource for you!

Matt Chandler

Lead Teaching Pastor at The Village Church, President of Acts 29 Network

Leslie Vernick is a gifted writer, speaker, counselor and coach who is relevant, insightful and anchored in biblical wisdom. It's a pleasure to recommend her as a refreshing leader in today's culture.

Dr. Tim Clinton

President, American Association of Christian Counselors

Leslie Vernick’s work is a treasure to those of us who work with victims of destructive relationships. Her teaching is immensely wise, biblical, and practical. I particularly appreciate that she teaches victims of abuse they are not defined by what happened to them, but that they can grow through their pain. She helps people heal and grow stronger after experiencing unimaginable pain. What a gift she is to the Body of Christ!

Joy Forrest

Called to Peace Ministries

Women in destructive marriages learn to reclaim their lives in a safe, online environment

After experiencing the CONQUER Community


I’ve learned to see the difference between what I used to think the Bible said and what Jesus and the Bible really say about suffering, abuse, injustice, and oppression.


I’ve learned I can make it on my own if I have to, and I can make choices and feel good even if my husband disapproves. His disapproval no longer defines me.


Since joining CONQUER, I have learned to tell myself the truth and stop making excuses or explanations for my husband's behavior. I have learned to track the verbal abuse cycle. I have learned about making myself strong and no longer tolerating this. I have learned that my husband has already left our marriage, and I am not breaking my vows. This has been so helpful.

Women find an empathetic and well-equipped coach to help them navigate their hardest moments

After experiencing coaching


“The accountability of coaching spurs me on to do the work necessary to gain and remain spiritually healthy. The coaching sessions are recorded, which means I have been able to go back and listen again and again to Leslie's words.

She always points me to Christ and how Christ thinks of and views me. I give Him the praise for the work He has done in my life.”


By the time we finished our first session, I had a new key to life and who I was! I could write on and on about how grateful I am for all you have done!


[After experiencing coaching,] I'm able to be more present without feeling anxious, I'm setting better boundaries, and I'm communicating more clearly. Also, I'm not procrastinating, I'm more organized at home and I'm just enjoying being alive. Thank you!


I cannot have imagined anyone else who could have helped me in the way you have helped me.

Your coaching, encouragement, wisdom, insight and perspective have been an answer to prayer for me.

Women discover their voice within the security of women navigating the same challenges

After experiencing Walking in CORE Strength


WCS has been amazing! I am now willing to see the lies exposed, rather than live in denial. I’ve gained the courage to do things I never thought I could do. The biggest thing I learned is how to respond to a toxic person in a loving, healthy way. I learned to stand up for myself without attacking my abuser. This changed everything for me.


Working with my group has helped me feel more connected. One night I couldn’t sleep due to the hurtful letter my daughter sent. I sent out a post requesting prayer and received 10 responses, three of the women saying had the same issue with their daughter.

I've also learned to start reacting differently to my daughter. This is a big change for me, and I am excited to see more changes.


Thank you for supporting me in my decisions and allowing me to be real without judgment. Thank you for being for my marriage but understanding that my sanity isn't less important. Thank you for giving me a place to sleep, helping me with resources, being a shoulder to cry on, or just a friend to sit in quiet prayer and sip some tea.

I'm forever grateful and I couldn't have done this without your support. I can see some real changes happening inside like developing confidence in my boundary setting and gaining a deeper understanding that God is my provision and my safety. For the first time, I have grieved the loss of the husband I wanted to have. I love this group!


I am much more aware of my thoughts and feelings, and I am able to align them with truth. I am able to feel less anxious because I am more confident in myself and my ability to be assertive. I tell myself who I am in Christ in order to prepare my heart.

Thank you for believing me, for loving me, and for speaking God’s truth over me. Thank you for letting me be vulnerable and transparent and honoring my privacy. Thank you for walking this journey with me and supporting me in being the woman that God created me to be. Thank you for honoring ME above my marriage.

Women seek advice and direction and walk away empowered and clear on what's next

After reading Leslie's books


I was a wife, mother, and entrepreneur, but above all I was lonely, scared, angry and desperate. I was hiding behind layers of masks. I met Leslie Vernick as a result of finding her book, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship, on Amazon.

I look back and know that it was divine intervention. God knew that I needed someone like Leslie who would walk me through the chaotic mess to a place of understanding my true identity and experience peace and freedom.


Leslie, I can't thank you enough for writing a book about emotionally destructive relationships. It has helped me put into words what my husband and I have been going through.

It gave validation for my feelings, helped me to understand my responses and gave me support in my actions.


I found Leslie's book, Lord I Just Want to be Happy, to be brilliant and packed with useful advice. When I was reading this book, I felt God’s presence, peace and love. I would recommend this book to all believers!


The only unhappy part of reading Leslie's book on happiness was closing the cover on the final page! Flowing with the ease of a conversation with a wise, trusted friend, each chapter is filled with poignant illustrations, practical help and penetrating principles from scripture that encourage and guide the reader into a richer relationship with Jesus.