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Are You Willing To Suffer In An Abusive Relationship?

By Leslie Vernick | April 20, 2022 |

Morning friend, Thanks for being here and part of our community. We need one another. Women all over the world are being abused and mistreated and sadly many churches continue to misadvise women on how to respond. If you need more connection and community with other like-minded women, CONQUER, my educational and support group is NOW open but will close…

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Emotional and Verbal Abuse

By Leslie Vernick | February 2, 2022 |

Morning friend, There is still a lot of confusion and misinformation on whether or not emotional abuse is real. You may be told by your husband or even your pastor that “you are too sensitive. Toughen up. Don’t take it personally. There is no such thing as emotional abuse in the Bible.” I want to show you something different. On…

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Blame Versus Responsibility. What’s The Difference?

By Leslie Vernick | January 19, 2022 |

Morning friend, I’m still recovering from the tail end of the Rona virus. Doing much better though. My energy is back and that is huge. Thanks for your prayers. I’m going to do something a little different today. Instead of answering a question, I’m going to respond to a comment from someone who believed I was shaming and blaming a…

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He Won’t Let The Affair Go.

By Leslie Vernick | July 7, 2021 |

Morning friend, I’m back at our little cabin at Pinetop, AZ. The weather has been wonderful. Lots of rain, which we desperately need. The temperatures are cool and my five-mile daily walk is a joy. I was joking with my husband that I kind of like the smallness of our space. It’s easier to put things away because leaving them…

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My Husband is Stuck in Victim Mindset and is Draining Me

By Leslie Vernick | February 24, 2021 |

Morning friend, Let me ask you a question that I’ve been pondering this week. Are you living each day doing what you want, or what someone else requires or wants?  For example, if you want to spend time reading, or doing art, or taking a walk, do you do it?  Or do you tend to defer to what other people…

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My Husband’s Wonderful And Toxic. What Do I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | June 10, 2020 |

Morning friends, Our nation is in turmoil. We are grieving, scared, and not sure what the outcome will be. Some of that will depend on our next steps forward. I wrote this essay in response to the George Floyd murder and invite you to read it. Click here to view the post.  Question: I’m married to a wonderful man who…

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Do I Have To Make Amends To My Abuser?

By Leslie Vernick | July 17, 2019 |

Morning friends, I am back in Phoenix for the week and boy oh boy is it hot. I forgot how hot it can get here. I can walk our dog for about 5 minutes and then we both are seeking shelter. She’s not used to it either. We both miss our long evening walks in the cool mountain air. But…

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My Husband Stole My Social Security Number. How Can I Stop Him?

By Leslie Vernick | December 6, 2017 |

Morning Friend, It’s hard to believe that we are near the end of 2017.  If you could make one change in yourself for 2018, one change that you would be most proud of, what would it be? This week’s question comes from a woman who isn’t seeing the change she needs to make quite yet. Let’s help her move from…

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I’ve Lost Myself In My Marriage

By Leslie Vernick | April 5, 2017 |

Morning friends, I just returned from a whirlwind weekend back in my old neighborhood in Pennsylvania where we held a shower and celebrated the upcoming marriage of the son of my dear friend. It was good to be back. It was wonderful to see our friends again but it was also a confirmation that Pennsylvania is no longer our home.…

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