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How Do I Help My Son Who Is Siding with His Dad?

By Leslie Vernick | May 1, 2024 |

Morning friend, Let me share something I’ve been doing lately that has brought me a greater sense of peace, self-control, and joy. I don’t do it perfectly, but I’ve been doing it more often. I pause and notice. For example, when I walk, I am deep into my audiobook. I pause, stop listening, and take notice of what’s around me…

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Navigating the Path of Confronting Emotional Abuse: A Gentle and Solid Approach

By LeAnne Parsons | September 13, 2023 |

In this journey of life, we often find ourselves in situations and seasons that call for supernatural courage, wisdom, and grace. My summer has been one just like this. September is a beautiful month to reflect and remember the goodness of God in our day-to-day lives.  Reminding ourselves how much God sees, knows, and feels for His children is a…

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Faith Over Fear: Finding Strength and Healing in a Destructive Relationship

By LeAnne Parsons | May 17, 2023 |

May is my birthday month! I am choosing to celebrate sisterhood in 2023. As Christian women, we know that our faith is our anchor in times of trouble. But when we find ourselves in emotionally destructive relationships or marriages, it can be hard to hold onto that faith. Fear, shame, and self-doubt can cloud our minds and make it difficult…

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Should I Apologize to Someone with a Victim Mentality?

By Susan King | April 12, 2023 |

Hello Friends! It’s Coach Susan taking the opportunity to write the blog for Leslie Vernick and & Co. this week. Here in Michigan, I am finally coming out of what feels like a long winter. The dreary rain and rumbling storms are announcing that spring is here. I have been giving myself pep talks this week. Do you also find…

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Are You Willing To Suffer In An Abusive Relationship?

By Leslie Vernick | April 20, 2022 |

Morning friend, Thanks for being here and part of our community. We need one another. Women all over the world are being abused and mistreated and sadly many churches continue to misadvise women on how to respond. If you need more connection and community with other like-minded women, CONQUER, my educational and support group is NOW open but will close…

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Emotional and Verbal Abuse

By Leslie Vernick | February 2, 2022 |

Morning friend, There is still a lot of confusion and misinformation on whether or not emotional abuse is real. You may be told by your husband or even your pastor that “you are too sensitive. Toughen up. Don’t take it personally. There is no such thing as emotional abuse in the Bible.” I want to show you something different. On…

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Blame Versus Responsibility. What’s The Difference?

By Leslie Vernick | January 19, 2022 |

Morning friend, I’m still recovering from the tail end of the Rona virus. Doing much better though. My energy is back and that is huge. Thanks for your prayers. I’m going to do something a little different today. Instead of answering a question, I’m going to respond to a comment from someone who believed I was shaming and blaming a…

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He Won’t Let The Affair Go.

By Leslie Vernick | July 7, 2021 |

Morning friend, I’m back at our little cabin at Pinetop, AZ. The weather has been wonderful. Lots of rain, which we desperately need. The temperatures are cool and my five-mile daily walk is a joy. I was joking with my husband that I kind of like the smallness of our space. It’s easier to put things away because leaving them…

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My Husband is Stuck in Victim Mindset and is Draining Me

By Leslie Vernick | February 24, 2021 |

Morning friend, Let me ask you a question that I’ve been pondering this week. Are you living each day doing what you want, or what someone else requires or wants?  For example, if you want to spend time reading, or doing art, or taking a walk, do you do it?  Or do you tend to defer to what other people…

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