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Are You Willing To Suffer In An Abusive Relationship?

By Leslie Vernick | April 20, 2022 |

Morning friend, Thanks for being here and part of our community. We need one another. Women all over the world are being abused and mistreated and sadly many churches continue to misadvise women on how to respond. If you need more connection and community with other like-minded women, CONQUER, my educational and support group is NOW open but will close…

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Anger Has A Short Term Purpose

By Leslie Vernick | May 26, 2021 |

Morning friends, Thanks for your prayers. I am up at my summer cabin now doing Nana Camp for a week with three of the most amazing grandchildren. We are doing lots of art projects, outdoor fun and the weather couldn’t be nicer. It’s a great place for some rejuvenation. Today’s question a reader asks:  After 47 years of marriage it…

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Rewriting A Bad Story

By Leslie Vernick | April 28, 2021 |

Morning friend, We spent the weekend in Pinetop, our summer cabin home. It was a beautiful weekend. Blue sunny skies. Cool breezes. But being away all winter does tell a story. The mice found refuge in our cabin on cold winter days and nights. I went to put on my slippers and found mouse droppings in the toes of my…

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How Much More Time Before I Feel Normal Again?

By Leslie Vernick | February 17, 2021 |

Morning friend, Today I was busy doing the webinars for the 4 Big Lies that Christian women believe that keep them stuck, afraid and confused in their destructive marriage so I invited my friend and colleague Wendy Douglas to share with you her answer to one of our reader’s questions. Wendy holds a master’s diploma in biblical counseling specializing in…

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Feeling Helpless And Hopeless

By Leslie Vernick | January 20, 2021 |

Morning friends, I’m going to be starting a weekly podcast soon. We will be doing guest interviews, I’ll be giving information for women, men, and people helpers about destructive relationship patterns and I’d love to answer some questions like I do here. If you’d like to be a guest on my podcast with a question you have, please let me…

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My Husband’s Wonderful And Toxic. What Do I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | June 10, 2020 |

Morning friends, Our nation is in turmoil. We are grieving, scared, and not sure what the outcome will be. Some of that will depend on our next steps forward. I wrote this essay in response to the George Floyd murder and invite you to read it. Click here to view the post.  Question: I’m married to a wonderful man who…

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My Husband Is Doing His Work But It’s Affecting Me

By Leslie Vernick | April 8, 2020 |

  Morning friends, How are you doing? It’s getting a little lonely and boring, isn’t it? Yet I hope you are all safe and your loved ones are healthy. As a part of the “community,” share with all of us some of the good television series and books you’ve been reading during this time. I just finished “The Choice” by…

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Do I Have To Make Amends To My Abuser?

By Leslie Vernick | July 17, 2019 |

Morning friends, I am back in Phoenix for the week and boy oh boy is it hot. I forgot how hot it can get here. I can walk our dog for about 5 minutes and then we both are seeking shelter. She’s not used to it either. We both miss our long evening walks in the cool mountain air. But…

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How Do I Manage A Narcissist Through A Divorce

By Leslie Vernick | March 9, 2016 |

Morning friends, Thanks so much for your continued prayers. I’ve been feeling better and finally am starting to get some energy back. There are a lot of new things coming up that I wanted you to know about. Our two-session introduction to understanding CORE strength starts in a few weeks. The class is conducted entirely over the phone. If you…

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