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He’s Threatening Self Harm. Now What?

By Leslie Vernick | March 10, 2021 |

Morning friend, I want to invite you to invite your counselor, pastor, or any other people helper you know to attend a free webinar Pastor Chris Moles and I are giving on Thursday at noon ET on Three Crucial Milestones You Must Master to Understand Destructive/Abusive Marriages. Here is the link to share. Today’s Question: I was in a…

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My Husband is Stuck in Victim Mindset and is Draining Me

By Leslie Vernick | February 24, 2021 |

Morning friend, Let me ask you a question that I’ve been pondering this week. Are you living each day doing what you want, or what someone else requires or wants?  For example, if you want to spend time reading, or doing art, or taking a walk, do you do it?  Or do you tend to defer to what other people…

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I’m In A Destructive Relationship With Myself

By Leslie Vernick | February 10, 2021 |

Morning friend, We spend a lot of time figuring out how to handle the destructive person in our life but what if the destructive person is in our own head? This week’s question examines an extreme form of anxiety called Scrupulosity, but we all battle with internal lies about who we are, our value and worth, and being able to…

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I’m Sinking. How Do I Get Stronger?

By Leslie Vernick | August 2, 2017 |

Morning friend, I am exhausted but loved taking our three granddaughters for five days to San Diego for vacation. We went to Legoland and the beach and took long walks with the dog. (If you want to see a crazy video of me on a ride with my granddaughter, click here). We talked and colored and collected seashells. Sometimes we…

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Help. I Can’t Let Go. I Still Love Him.

By Leslie Vernick | January 6, 2016 |

Morning friends, I flew down to Florida on Sunday for some needed sunshine. I get gloomy without enough sun and although it’s been warm for about a month in Pennsylvania it’s been foggy and cloudy. Unfortunately the sunshine left here for more clouds and wind but I am thankful that I’m not in the 5-degree weather back home. But I…

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Am I A Magnet For Abusers?

By Leslie Vernick | December 23, 2015 |

Morning friends, In honor of Christmas and the need for both Martha and I to have a less stressful week, I thought I would repeat a blog I did several years ago about a person’s vulnerability to being a repeat victim in abusive relationships. Please do not take this to mean that you cause someone to abuse you. That is…

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Am I Expecting Too Much?

By Leslie Vernick | September 23, 2015 |

Morning friend, Today (Wednesday, September 23), I am speaking at the American Association of Christian Counselors Conference. I appreciate your prayers. This afternoon I teach for three hours on Effective Counseling Strategies for the Emotionally Destructive Marriage. Tomorrow morning Chris Moles and I are doing a workshop together on Counseling The Destructive Person. Pray that our materials are well received…

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I’m Too Afraid to Make a Change

By Leslie Vernick | August 19, 2015 |

Morning friends, The psalmist asked himself “Why am I downcast? What’s going on? (See Psalms 42 and 43). Depression is often a response to something that is wrong, either in our inner life, in our outer life, or/and in our body. Today’s question is from someone who struggles with depression and is paralyzed by fear. I’m sure many of you…

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Staying Well

By Leslie Vernick | July 22, 2015 |

Morning friends, Well, my front yard IS looking better. Change is taking place and I like what’s happening. Perhaps that’s a good picture for your life. You took a good hard look at what you saw and didn’t like what was staring back at you. It was time to remove the deadwood, the diseased and even the areas that were…

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