Posts by Leslie Vernick
Am I Making Up My Abuse?
Hi Friends, Last week I started this October series by naming what emotional and verbal abuse can look like. But recognizing a destructive pattern is not always the same as trusting yourself enough to believe what you’re seeing. That is especially true when the behavior is subtle. There may not be one dramatic incident you…
Read MoreWhat Is Emotional and Verbal Abuse?
Morning Friends, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Every year, I want to use this month to help bring some of what happens behind closed doors into the light. Here are some key stats: About 1 in 3 women who are murdered in the U.S. are killed by a husband, boyfriend, or former partner. For…
Read MoreWhen Your Heart Isn’t Sure: Rebuilding Trust in Your Own Judgment
Morning friend, We have just closed our CONQUER membership with hundreds of women eager to learn how to change their own dance steps to become safe, healthy, and strong. One of the things we often see when a woman has been in an unhealthy or destructive relationship is that she loses trust in her own…
Read MoreHis Map, Your Map: Two Different Journeys
Morning friend, Our CONQUER doors are open. We open our membership twice a year, so if you’ve been waiting to join, now is the time. Click here for more information. We had hundreds of women attend our workshop last week: Is He Changing or Just Pretending? There were lots of questions, lots of tears, lots…
Read MoreThe Trauma Bond Behind “But I Still Love Him”
Morning friend, I spent all day Saturday in the emergency room. Still not sure exactly what’s wrong, but it’s probably a torn ligament in my knee. It’s amazing to me how our body immediately lets us know that something is wrong. A little tear, but it won’t let me ignore it. Pain forces us to…
Read MoreEmotionally Strong, Emotionally Alone: Surviving an Immature Marriage
Morning friend, It’s been a tough month. Life isn’t always easy, nor can we always figure out why things are happening the way they are. Since creation, when Satan tempted Adam and Eve, we’ve craved knowledge above trusting God. We want to know why something is happening. We want to know what God is up…
Read MoreWhat Does a Healthy Christian Marriage Look Like?
Morning friend, We just concluded our Moving Beyond Insecurity Coaching Week. It was amazing. So many breakthroughs and takeaways women gained in just one week. God longs to heal our heart, our mind, and our relationships. And, most of the time, he doesn’t do it instantly. Instead, he invites our cooperation, our willingness, and our…
Read MoreDear Mom: How to Lead Your Daughters Through the Wreckage of Betrayal
Morning friend, Italy is amazing. What a privilege to spend this quality, special time with each one of my granddaughters. We’ve been playing Monopoly Deal together on the beach when our feet are too tired to do any more walking. So fun. Being able to influence and impact the next generation of young women is…
Read MoreThe Hardest Kind of Love: When Staying or Leaving are Both Hard
Morning friend, I’m pondering a verse in 1 John 4:16: “God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.” The Bible tells us that God is love — that is his essence, his being. Everything God does is in love, with love, by love. Yet if we’re…
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