We believe God wants you to live with safety, security, and emotional strength - whether your spouse changes or not.
At Leslie Vernick & Co., we understand that being in a family structure or marriage that is destructive and unhealthy is one of the most challenging situations we face on this side of heaven.
At Leslie Vernick, we understand that being in a family structure or marriage that is destructive and unhealthy is one of the most challenging situations we face on this side of heaven. But we've walked with thousands of women in similar situations and we're here to provide the support you need to gain insight, to grow personally, and to recognize and understand the destructive cycles in your marriage.
I've been where you are.
I care deeply about the women we serve because I know firsthand what it's like to be in a difficult and destructive relationship. My own painful and destructive relationship with my mother began in my childhood and continued into my adulthood.
For more than fifteen years, I didn't see or speak to my mom. Before that time, my contact with her was sporadic and always tense. She didn't attend my wedding, nor was she present when my son was born or my daughter was adopted from Korea. She never shared Christmas with us or invited my family to visit her.
Even as a Christian counselor, I struggled with how to honor my mother without losing myself. I wished that the Church had more resources for someone like me.
I eventually learned:
- how and when to set appropriate boundaries,
- how to confront and when to forbear,
- how to overcome evil with good, and
- how to let go of all those negative messages swirling around in my head.
These were just a few of the things I personally had to learn and that I want to teach you through my resources and coaching programs.
The Church is under-resourced
As you may have experienced, the Church has been slow to acknowledge the validity of emotional abuse, especially in marriage. And it's often further damaging to seek help and comfort from the Church when you need it most only to be turned away, dismissed or discredited by those in leadership.
My prayer is that God would use me and the resources I create to be an advocate for a group of people who have been overlooked and oppressed. I pray that through my biblical and practical tools women will get healthier and can possibly turn their relationship around. I don't want the next generation to repeat the same mistakes and experience the same pain.
Biblical-based help is available
At Leslie Vernick & Co., we’ve walked with thousands of women in similar situations. We’re here to provide the support you need to gain insight, to grow personally, and to recognize and understand the destructive cycles in your marriage.
I've not only experienced a destructive relationship myself, I've also counseled individuals and couples for more than 30 years. As the author of best-selling books “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” and “The Emotionally Destructive Relationship,” I have dedicated my career to helping women and couples in destructive marriages.
The Leslie Vernick team of coaches is trained in providing Christ-centered support and accountability for women in unhealthy and destructive marriages.
The Leslie Vernick virtual community will gather around you to provide the resources you need to take back your life and be the woman God created you to be. Together, we can help you break the patterns of destructive relationships and rediscover your self-worth.
American Association of Christian Counselors Caregiver of the Year Award 2013
You are not alone
I wanted to join CONQUER because things were getting worse. I was becoming more aware of how much of the abuse in our relationship wasn't “my fault.” I wanted to become stronger. I wanted to learn how to have healthy boundaries and was aware it might not save my marriage.
Now, I'm a lot better about pausing and considering my emotions rather than just reacting. I'm less likely to crumble into the role of a victim or fall into a pit of despair when he is verbally abusive towards me. I'm more aware of his mood before I interact with him rather than just considering my own feelings.
I am grateful for the changes that I am seeing in myself. Thank you to you and your team!