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Women Get Addicted to Porn Too
Question: I am a single female, 47 years old. I am not currently nor have I ever been in a relationship. At the age of 6 I was sexually molested for the first time. Not long after that I started looking at my dad’s playboy magazines and have struggled with porn ever since. In the past 5 years I have…
I Married the Wrong Person. What Do I Do?
Question: My marriage isn’t terrible, but it isn’t great either. I often think I married the wrong person and that I would be happier with someone different. How do I learn to love the person I married instead of always dreaming of what might have been? Answer: Believe it or not, your situation is not all that uncommon. I’ve talked…
My Adult Child has Moved Home. Help
Question: My adult daughter has moved back home after making a mess out of her life. I think I’ve enabled her to be too dependent on me and now she is acting like an angry teenager instead of a responsible adult. What can I do to help her? Answer: I hear this so often. Well meaning parents have crippled their…
My Sister Borrowed Money and Hasn’t Paid Me Back
Question: Several years ago my sister borrowed a significant amount of money from me to start a new business. She didn’t want me to tell the rest of our family and I honored her request. Now, several years later, she has yet to repay me the loan. She has made one payment but after that, nothing. I am angry and…
Overcoming morbid self-consciousness around others
Question: For as long as I can remember, I have been extremely shy and self-conscious. I constantly worry about what others think about me. I don’t feel worth much and have a very hard time asserting myself. I know this isn’t good but I don’t know how to change. Any suggestions? Elaine in CA. Answer: Being aware of your problems…
My Wife Disrespects Me in Front of the Children
Question: My wife is extremely disrespectful to me and often uses four letter words in front of our children when she’s mad. I’ve told her it bothers me but she tells me to grow up and quit being a baby. I’ve tried just loving her in the hopes that she will change but so far, nothing changes. (Ron in GA)…
Can I Withhold Sex from my Spouse?
Question: Do you ever recommend withholding sex as a consequence for destructive behavior? Laura in FL Answer: I don’t recommend a spouse withhold sex anymore than I would recommend that he or she withhold talking when angry. Touching and talking are the only channels that intimacy is expressed and experienced. If someone cuts off those channels when they are angry,…
My husband likes to hike with another woman.
Question: Is it proper for a younger lady (age 57 – who looks much younger) to go hiking with 3 men (age 65-70), none of which is her husband? Due to my schedule, I am unable to hike with them. All of them are great mountain hikers, and they are very impressed with this woman. Two to four times a…
My husband still wants to see another woman. What do I do?
Question: My husband confessed to adultery 4 years ago and till now, he wants to cling on to his “2nd wife”. I have chosen to stay on in this marriage and not fight in the worldly sense. However I wonder if that is wrongly telling him that it is alright to carry on this choice of lifestyle? (Elaine from MI)…