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My sister is in an abusive marriage. How can I help her?

By Leslie Vernick | September 14, 2009 |

Question: My sister is in an abusive marriage and I just don’t know how to help her. I see the toll it’s taken on her and the kids but she doesn’t want to leave him. What is my role here? Answer: There is no more helpless feeling than to stand by and watch someone make decisions that you know are…

I feel guilty when I set boundaries with my parents

By Leslie Vernick | September 7, 2009 |

Happy Labor Day! I need some help. I’m looking for a very special group of people called Influencers who would be willing to read my new book, Lord I Just Want to be Happy within 30 days after receiving it. After you read it, if you like it, I’m asking you to pass it on to someone else and spread…

Speaking up to an overbearing friend

By Leslie Vernick | August 31, 2009 |

Hey Everyone. Today is my birthday. My dear friend, Theresa, came to visit me so I’ve been taking the day off playing and doing fun stuff. I’m attaching a question I was asked while doing a column at Today’s Christian Woman Magazine. I think sometimes our girlfriends, as dear as they can be, can sometimes say things that get on…

Can I divorce my abusive spouse?

By Leslie Vernick | August 24, 2009 |

Over the past several weeks I have received numerous questions around whether or not it’s Biblically permissible to divorce an abusive spouse. Let me summarize them. Question: I have been in a marriage where there has been mostly emotional, but some physical as well as regular spiritual abuse. My spouse regularly tells me I am unsubmissive, ungodly, a bad mother,…

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore. How Can I Win Her Back?

By Leslie Vernick | August 17, 2009 |

Question: I am 38, my wife is 32. Recently she informed me that she no longer loves me or has any feelings for me. We have 5 kids and they all see the anger and resentment she has toward me. I used to drink but have not had anything in almost 2 years. I never drank around the kids and…

My adult son is a mess. How can I help him?

By Leslie Vernick | August 10, 2009 |

Question: My 48 year old adult son is threatening suicide because his former girlfriend broke up with him over a year ago. He lives in California and I have not seen him since 1992. He sends “help me” e-mails and I don’t know the truth of the situation. He has used pot since 7th grade and drinks excessively. I think…

How do I tell my mother she can’t visit my kids?

By Leslie Vernick | August 3, 2009 |

I’m back from vacation. This e-mail came my way a few weeks ago and I was busy with final edits so I didn’t get a chance to respond sooner but I think many of us struggle in similar ways with certain people in our lives. Forgive the lengthiness of it. I felt background was needed to make the things I…

This week is vacation

By Leslie Vernick | July 27, 2009 |

Hi Everyone, Today I am at Ocean City NJ enjoying the beauty of God’s creation. My friend Barb has a beach house here that she graciously allows me to stay at for a few days each year. It’s not been great weather but the ocean is so beautiful, whether sunny or cloudy. As I packed up on Friday I didn’t…

My husband’s attracted to my girlfriend. Help

By Leslie Vernick | July 22, 2009 |

Question: I have been married for 9 years and recently found out that my husband was pursuing one of my friends from church. He told her how he felt and that he was attracted to her. This went on for about 8 months before I found out. From my understanding nothing happened, but there were two incidents that alarmed her…