Fear Is Not The Boss Of You
Guest Article by Jennifer Allwood
Now more than ever before I am meeting so many women who are feeling stuck in their lives, unable to move toward the thing that they want and the thing that God calls them to and they are terrified of what the future may hold.
I get it. We are all trying to adjust to a new normal.
But adjusting is often soooooo hard because we feel stuck.
Stuck because we just won’t let things go. Old ways of thinking. Old habits. Sometimes even letting go of people who were in an old season. Sometimes we stay stuck because we are continuing to CHOOSE stuck on a daily basis.
It’s so important to get unstuck and yet all too often we have grown comfortable in our stuckness. We stay stuck with other stuck people and it begins to feel comfortable. We carry it around like a toddler’s favorite blanket.
Because when we are terrified, it’s easier to claim, “I’m stuck” than it is to gather courage and say, “I’m trying again.” Or “I’m breaking free.”
And now more than ever, you need to break free. Pivot. Move. Change. Get unstuck.
The thing about a woman being stuck is that it not only affects us, but everyone around us.
When I am stuck, my husband pays for it. My kids pay for it. My business suffers. I am not the kind of friend I want to be.
I have to fight staying stuck for them too.
It’s so important for us to understand that we are not defined by the awful things that happened to us. The traumatic childhood, the abusive boyfriend, the cheating spouse, the friend who betrayed you . . . those experiences are not all of you. Certainly, a part of you, but not all of you.
They are not who you are.
You are a grown woman, capable of healing, capable of being whole, capable of doing hard things, capable of moving forward. God does not mark your life by one event or tragedy or a series of them, for that matter, and you should not either.
It’s time to stop replaying the old tapes and the old mistakes over and over in your mind. You are not who you were back then. You aren’t who you were last month. You are not even the same person you were yesterday if you did any sort of reflection, prayer, or anything to grow yourself in the last twenty-four hours.
You may have failed, but you are not a failure.
You don’t have to stay stuck. It’s time to break free of all that is holding you back and getting out of your own head so you can live the life you were made for.
My book “Fear Is Not The Boss of You” hit Amazon bestseller list on the first day it came out. This book is written for any woman who has ever been stuck, completely overwhelmed or terrified to make a change in her life. You can find it on Amazon, Barnes and Noble online and at www.fearisnotthebossofyou.com