Morning friends, We’ve had a lively discussion on verbal abuse. It never ceases to surprise me how relevant God’s word is to today’s problems. We can’t ignore God’s principles for healthy relationships and expect to reap great connection and loving community, including marriage. Sadly destructive individuals somehow believe that if they say loving things, or […]
I Want To Please God Most. Will Separating From A Destructive Spouse Ruin That?
Morning friends, I imagine you’ve all read or heard in the news the expose’ on what’s happening within the Southern Baptist Church in their mishandling and covering up of abuse inside their ranks. It’s heartbreaking and sinful. It’s everything that’s against justice, truth, and the heart of God. Abuse Of Faith Southern Baptist Leaders And […]
Can Separation Help Reconcile A Marriage?
Morning friends, I have a surprise for you. Part of rebuilding a shattered life is restoring a broken sense of self. My good friend Dee Brestin has just written a new book entitled He Calls You Beautiful which is all about hearing the voice of Jesus in the Song of Songs. I will be giving […]
How Do I Love My In-Laws Unconditionally When They Still Hurt Me
Morning Friend, Thank you so much for your love for one another on this blog. I am so very grateful that you are such warriors on each other’s behalf. I know so many of you are very busy and the time you take to thoughtfully respond to one another deeply touches my heart. I […]
Can I Reach Out To My Daughter Even Though My Husband Forbids It?
Morning friends, I had a wonderful time speaking to a church in Valencia, CA last Friday on how to care for victims of abuse. My heart is more and more heavy to help churches know how to competently and compassionately help those in destructive marriages. My new people helpers website (the old one will still […]
I’m Newlywed And He’s Destructive. I’ve Separated But Do I Try To Reconcile?
Morning sweet friends, What a week I’ve had. Chris Moles and I had an amazing time at The Village Church. Pastor Matt Chandler and their entire staff were extremely supportive of our work and wanted to know how they as a church could do better. I was very encouraged by their humility, affirmation, and support […]
Should I Apologize To My Abusive Husband?
Morning friends, I am excited to let you know that we will be doing a 2 session Introduction to CORE Strength on Wednesday, August 10 and August 17. If you have always wanted to have some extra help in understanding yourself and how to get stronger, this would be the perfect introductory class. Also, we […]
Why Isn’t The Marriage Getting Better?
Morning Friends, As you read this, hopefully, I am home from the long drive from Los Angeles to Pennsylvania. Thanks for your prayers for safe travels. We had a great time with my daughter and our three adorable granddaughters. Gracie (my dog) was amazing. She loves car rides and managed the long five-day drive home […]
From Violance To Gentleness – How I Work With Physically Abusive Men [Guest Post]
Morning friends, I am feeling much better. Thanks for your prayers. I appreciate you all so much. I’ve invited my friend and colleague, Pastor Chris Moles, who is also a Batterer Intervention Specialist with the State of West Virginia to share his heart on some of the things he does to help abusers change. He […]
He Wants To Try, But I Don’t
Morning friends, This week I am in Texas with a group of lovely women ministry leaders. We’ve been coming to this place for about 8 years to refresh, recharge, exercise, and encourage one another. I’m blessed to have a group of women who know the pressures and responsibilities of ministry who can speak words of […]