What Kind of Daddy Do You Have?
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What Kind of Daddy Do You Have?

By Leslie Vernick

The Bible tells us a story about a woman who had an issue of blood for 12 years. You know her; she touched the hem of Jesus’ garment, hoping to be healed. But let’s look more closely at her story to understand how deeper healing takes place. (Read Mark 5 and Luke 8 for the story.)

This woman was an outcast. She was labeled unclean. She was socially unacceptable, undesirable, and dirty. Jewish law mandated that if someone touched an unclean person, they would need to go through the Jewish purification ritual in order to regain their rights to enter the temple. She was an untouchable and people kept their distance.

This poor woman spent all her resources to find help, but her problem only got worse. She heard Jesus coming and thought to herself, “if only I can touch his cloak, I will be healed.” ─ and to her surprise ─ she was.

She sensed the shift in her body. Immediately she tried to escape the crowd unnoticed. Remember, she touched Jesus and according to Jewish law, that made him unclean. How embarrassed and scared she must have felt when Jesus turned and asked, “Who touched me?” If she admitted what she’d done, then everyone would know what she had done.

Let’s look at the larger story. When this woman touched Jesus, Jesus was already on a mission. He was heading to Jairus’ house because his young daughter lay dying. Jairus was a Jewish leader, a ruler of the synagogue. Yet Jairus was a daddy before he was a religious leader and so in spite of his skepticism about Jesus’s claims, he fell at Jesus’ feet begging him to heal his daughter.

It was on the way to Jairus’ home with the crowd pressing in that Jesus stopped and asked who touched him? I wonder in that moment what Jairus thought and felt? Did he feel impatient, anxious for Jesus to hurry up and get to his house? His daddy’s heart wanted his daughter healed. I wonder if he also felt a bit angry at this woman for distracting Jesus and taking valuable time away from a more pressing need. I suspect he might have even felt angry at Jesus for not prioritizing his daughter’s life threatening illness over this woman’s chronic bleeding problem.

Jairus was a person of influence and importance. He was a leader: he spoke and people listened. He risked everything to beg for Jesus’ help and now Jesus was wasting time asking around who touched him while his daughter lay dying.

Have you ever felt like Jairus? Maybe you told yourself that God wasn’t moving fast enough for your emergency? Feeling angry and impatient that other people’s prayers are getting answered while you are still waiting?

Jairus was a daddy and he wanted to see his daughter healed. But one of the lessons of this story is that this unnamed woman had a daddy too. And her daddy knew she had no one who begged for her healing.

Jesus stopped and called her forth not to shame her but because he wanted her to know something very important. Listen to his words he spoke. He said, “Daughter, Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.” Jesus wanted her to know that her daddy (the Heavenly Father) saw her suffering and told Jesus to help her too.

Jesus wanted her to know that she mattered. Her culture rejected her, but God did not. She was judged to be unclean, but Jesus declared her whole. He wanted her to know that she was a person of value and worth. Even in a pressured moment, Jesus took the time to have a conversation with a nameless women who felt unclean, unloved and unimportant. He wanted her to know who she was. She was a daughter of a daddy who cared.

How about you? Maybe your mother abused you. Your husband rejects you. People don’t understand you. You feel like an unclean women, damaged goods. I have good news for you. Jesus tells you, Daughter, go in peace and be freed from your suffering. God wants to help you. He wants you to know that you matter. You are important to him. He sees you and knows you and he is never too busy with more important people to meet your very personal need. You are not nameless, or worthless, or hopeless. You have a Daddy, he’s called Abba (Romans 8:15; Galatians 4:6).

Believing that is the beginning of your healing.

As for Jairus, Jesus didn’t forget about his concern although Jarius probably felt that way when he got word that his daughter died. But Jesus turned to him and said, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.”

What did it take for Jairus to walk those last miles home, heavy with sorrow still clinging to faith? Perhaps that’s where you are right now. You feel hopeless or angry or disappointed. But Jairus trusted what Jesus said to him and because he did, he saw a miracle. Jesus took Jairus’ precious daughter’s hand and said, “Honey, wake up.”

What is Jesus saying to you right now, even if the midst of sorrow, heartache, broken dreams and shattered promises? Can you trust what he is saying and continue to walk in faith? That is healing. He says to you right now, “Honey, wake up”. Your Daddy in Heaven is there for you.


Tending the Soul: 90 Days of Spiritual Nourishment

by Anita Lustrea

Every day, tens of thousands of women turn to Midday Connection for spiritual nourishment and encouragement through the radio program and Facebook community. The hosts, Anita Lustrea, Melinda Schmidt and Lori Neff hear the heartfelt needs of these women and understand their desires to grow in body, mind, and soul.

In response, Midday Connection along with prominent authors and artists – Staci Eldridge, Shannon Ethridge, Carol Kent, Sara Groves and many others – compiled Tending the Soul: 90-days of Spiritual Nourishment. This devotional combines transparency with biblical truth, as each reading begins with scripture, followed by a short devotional including a deeply personal prayer, and closes with an application question.

Two winners will be selected in our next newsletter.

If you would like to enter to win, you can click here to provide name and email address.

The winners of “The Emotionally Destructive Relationship” by Leslie Vernick are Donna A. and Debra C.

The winners of “When You Feel Like Screaming: Practical Help for Frustrated Moms” by Sue Heimer are Amy E. and Maria P.

Can I Have Good Boundaries and Be Compassionate?

Question: Where is the line between understanding and having compassion for your emotionally abusive spouse and protecting your own healthy emotional boundaries and beginning the healing process?

Answer: This is an excellent question. People usually fall in one of two categories. On the one side, you have so much compassion and empathy for someone that you have no boundaries. Instead, you enable and/or excuse destructive and damaging behavior that’s directed towards you and continue to suffer believing that God calls you to do just that. You say to yourself, he came from an abusive childhood, therefore you allow him to mistreat you because he was mistreated himself.

But would you think that same way with a two-year-old? Yes, you have compassion that your child is tired. He didn’t get his nap. He doesn’t feel well. But he bites you or kicks you or hits his baby sister. Do you allow it and make excuses for his behavior because you feel bad for him? I hope not. You can have compassion with firm boundaries. “I know you’re tired, or don’t feel well, but hitting mommy or your sister is not allowed and if you don’t stop, you will have a time out.”

Here is What People are Saying About Leslie's Intro to Core Group

I am so very thankful that I took the intro to CORE course – God has really used it in such a powerful way in my life. I plan to re-listen to the sessions and go over the homework again the coming weeks/months. While some of the information is very similar to what my counselor has been working with me on, the Holy Spirit really made the information come alive to me in a new way during this course.

There was something so special and personal about being able to hear Leslie teach live. As an introverted person, it was difficult for me to interact, but since it was over the phone and anonymous, I found it easier and thoroughly enjoyed and benefited from doing so. Also- the information she shared in this class was different from the information she gives out for free.

~Intro to CORE Strength Participant


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