Morning friends, Are you merciful towards yourself? I bet even if you’re merciful towards others, you are hard on yourself – constantly beating yourself up for your shortcomings, flaws, mistakes, and failures. Being merciful towards yourself (or others for that matter) doesn’t mean you are self-indulgent or enabling of sinful behaviors and attitudes. But it […]
My Husband is Homosexual and Abusive. I’m Disabled and Stuck. Help.
Good morning friends, I spent the weekend celebrating my mother’s 80th birthday with my family and all their friends from over the years. It is an amazing thing to see a life well-lived up close and my step-mom embodies an ordinary woman who has lived extraordinarily well. She had many hardships as a young married […]
My Husband’s Sexual Addiction is Killing Me
Hi Friends, Thanks for all the lively comments on the blog post about the video, Fred et Marie. I love the community spirit fostered here as well as you sharing your experiences, praying for one another and giving encouragement and support to those who are just waking up and realizing that their marriage is in trouble. […]
Topic: My husband pressures me sexually to do things I don’t like. What’s my responsibility here?
Morning friends, I had the best weekend with my dear friend, Dee Brestin. She invited me to her home in Door County, Wisconsin for some rest and concentrated writing time. We were in bed by 8:30, up by 6am, writing until noon. I finished almost three whole chapters which encouraged me greatly. In the afternoons, […]
Does God Care More About Sex Than Marriage?
Good morning friends, Thank you for all your comments and notes encouraging me to continue writing this blog. I want to serve you and meet your needs and so I appreciate the feedback. I was in Dallas, TX all weekend speaking at the Wonderful Counselor Conference, so what I thought I’d do is share with […]
Topic: Help! A Woman is Caught in Pornography Adiction
Good Morning Friends, I just got back from a wonderful weekend speaking at the American Association of Christian Counselors Convention in Orlando, Florida. Thanks for all your prayers. Today I am scurrying to finish my taxes. This is one of the chores I always leave to the last minute. I never intend to, but it […]
Topic: Does God say I have to be sexually available to my abusive husband?
Dear friends, Thank you for your prayers. I have felt them and continue to ask God for his guidance as to pacing and scheduling. Watch your mailbox later this week. My newsletter will be coming out Thursday entitled Are you Guilty of Being Too Nice? I get many questions from women who wonder what their […]
Topic: Do I have to have sex with my husband?
Hi Friends, I’m heading off to Nashville, TN, tomorrow to attend the American Association of Christian Counselor conference. I am speaking on The Emotionally Destructive Relationship as well as Domestic Violence: An Abuse of Power. I’d really appreciate your prayers if you think of me. I’ll post some pictures on my Facebook page and put […]
My mom’s in an emotionally destructive relationship with my dad. What should I do?
Good Monday Morning Friends: I hope you had a beautiful weekend. I just finished reading a beautifully written new book by Michael and Gina Spehn, The Color of Rain. It is a true story of incredible loss, hope, and trust in God’s goodness. Both Michael and Gina lost their spouses to cancer at young ages. […]
Topic: A Wife Can’t Trust, A Husband is Repentant.Now What?
Good evening friends, Whew, it’s been a whirlwind week of travel, counseling, coaching and writing. I attended Logos Bible Software boot camp last week to learn their software. We were treated so kindly by the entire Logos staff. I had the opportunity to visit with amazing women ministry leaders who wanted to study God’s word […]
