You Matter To God

Dear Friends,

Woohoo, the book is done! Well not exactly done, I still have to get all my end notes and appendices in order but its as done as its going to be today. I worked so hard all weekend I think I’m going to have curvature of my spine from hunching over my computer for 12 hours each day. I didn’t even go on my treadmill and try writing. I just hunkered down and completed the job and I believe it will be a tremendous resource and encouragement for women in destructive marriages. I praise God that he has given me the words to say as I would not have thought of all these things on my own, that’s for sure.

But I’m tired. I mean really tired. I think I could sleep for a week, just crawl in my bed and not get out for 7 whole days, maybe more.

So instead of answering a new question this week, I dug out an old article I wrote about a tired broken women who needed a special touch from Jesus. Maybe that’s you today. I trust it will bless your heart.


You Matter To God

We’ve all read the story of the women who had an issue of blood for 12 years. You know her; she touched the hem of Jesus’ garment, hoping to be healed. But let’s look more closely at her story to understand how deeper healing takes place. (Read Mark 5 and Luke 8 for the story.)

Here is a woman who was an outcast. She was labeled an unclean woman, socially unacceptable, undesirable, and dirty. Jewish law mandated that if someone touched an unclean person, they would need to go through the Jewish purification ritual in order to regain their rights to enter the temple. She was an untouchable woman and people kept their distance. She had spent all her resources to find help, but she only got worse. This woman heard Jesus coming and thought to herself, “if only I can touch his cloak, I will be healed.” ─ and to her surprise ─ she was.

Immediately she tried to escape the crowd unnoticed. Remember, she touched Jesus and according to Jewish law, that made him unclean. How embarrassed and scared she must have felt when Jesus turned and said, “Who touched me?” If she identified herself then everyone would know what she had done.

Let’s step back for a moment and look at the larger story here. Jesus was heading to Jairus’ house. Jairus was a Jewish leader, a ruler of the synagogue. Yet he approached Jesus for help because his young daughter lay dying. Jairus was a daddy before he was a religious leader and so he fell at Jesus’ feet begging him to heal his daughter.

It was on the way to Jairus’ home with the crowd pressing in that Jesus stopped and asked who touched him? I wonder in that moment what Jairus thought and felt? Did he feel impatient, anxious for Jesus to hurry up and get to his house? His daddy’s heart wanted his daughter healed. I wonder if he also felt a bit angry at this woman for distracting Jesus and taking valuable time away from a more pressing need. I suspect he might have even felt angry at Jesus for not prioritizing his daughter’s life threatening illness over this woman’s chronic bleeding problem.

Jairus was a person of influence and importance. He was a leader: he spoke and people listened. He risked everything to beg for Jesus’ help and now Jesus was wasting time asking who touched him while his daughter lay dying.

Do you ever feel like Jairus? God isn’t moving fast enough for your emergency? Angry and impatient that other people’s prayers are getting answered while you are still waiting?

Jairus was a daddy and wanted to see his daughter healed. But dear readers, one of the lessons of this story is that this unnamed woman had a daddy too, and her daddy cared about her needs and he knew she had no one who begged for her healing. Jesus stopped and called her forth because he wanted her to know something very important. Listen to his words. He said, “Daughter, Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.” He wanted her to know that her daddy (the Heavenly Father) saw her suffering and told Jesus to help her too.

Jesus wanted her to know that she mattered to God. Although her culture rejected her, God did not. Although she was judged to be unclean, Jesus declared her whole. He wanted her to know that she was a person of value and worth. Even in a pressured moment, Jesus took the time to have a conversation with a nameless women who felt unclean, unloved and unimportant. He wanted her to know who she was. She was a daughter of a daddy who cared.

How about you? Perhaps your mother abused you. Your husband rejects you. People don’t understand you. You feel like an unclean women, damaged goods. If only you could touch his cloak, you’d be well. I have good news for you. Daughter, go in peace and be freed from your suffering. God wants to help you. He wants you to know that you matter. You are important to him. He sees you and knows you and he is never too busy with more important people to meet your very personal need. You are not nameless, or worthless, or hopeless. You have a daddy, he’s called Abba (Romans 8:15; Galatians 4:6). Believing that is the beginning of your healing.

As for Jairus, Jesus didn’t forget about his concern although Jarius probably felt that way when he got word that his daughter died. But Jesus turned to him and said, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.” What did it take for Jairus to walk those next miles home, heavy with sorrow still clinging to faith? Perhaps that’s where you are right now. You feel hopeless or angry or disappointed. But Jairus trusted what Jesus said to him and because he did, he saw a miracle. Jesus took Jairus’ precious daughter’s hand and said, “Honey, wake up.”

What is Jesus saying to you right now, even if the midst of sorrow, heartache, broken dreams and shattered promises? Can you trust what he is saying and continue to walk in faith? That is healing. He says to your right now, “Honey, wake up”.



  1. Pam on November 27, 2012 at 12:03 am

    Thank you for the article. It was very encouraging.
    and Hooray for you that you have finished your book! =) I’m looking forward to reading it when it becomes available.

    • jennifer on November 27, 2012 at 4:45 am

      Thank you so much for this message. My heart aches daily and i often wonder if there is some lesson God wants me to learn but i just keep missing. For the past year i have debated with myself on leaving my narcissistic husband. He never misses an opportunity to dismiss me or be indifferent to anything that concerns me. Just when i thought i had the courage to take a stand and leave, i got layed off from my wonderful job. Im lost. I know that God loves me and has a plan for my life but its so hard to see just now, through all this darkness. I keep asking God to make my path clear and to help me see. How does a person explain the feeling of hopelessness when you live under daily abuse and yet have no where to go. Still, i know that God is good whether my life is a mess or not. The conclusion ive come to is, the One and only God of the universe, who loves me dearly is allowing me to go through unimaginable suffering. Im broken and heart broken. Please pray for me…and my husband. God bless you for all of your tireless work.

  2. Ellen on November 27, 2012 at 10:56 am

    I’m amazed at how hard you work and how consistent you are with sending out blog articles! Your example makes me want to try harder. It’s really nice to know you will be posting once a week. It gives me something to look forward to read. Thanks for all you do for victims of abuse. It is not a popular topic nor is it going to be an easy road to travel. Surely you are treading where many would never dare. Praying for you and are so excited about the book!!! Now go to sleep… 🙂

  3. Roseann on November 27, 2012 at 8:14 pm

    Thank you, Leslie!
    It is a wonderful article and beautiful example of taking care of yourself as you take care of others! Our Heavenly Father is surely blessing you with great gifts of wisdom and encouragement. Thank you for your vigilance and dedication to God’s plan for your life as we all are blessed. Looking forward to your book.

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