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Blame Versus Responsibility. What’s The Difference?

By Leslie Vernick | January 19, 2022 |

Morning friend, I’m still recovering from the tail end of the Rona virus. Doing much better though. My energy is back and that is huge. Thanks for your prayers. I’m going to do something a little different today. Instead of answering a question, I’m going to respond to a comment from someone who believed I was shaming and blaming a…

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My Husband is Stuck in Victim Mindset and is Draining Me

By Leslie Vernick | February 24, 2021 |

Morning friend, Let me ask you a question that I’ve been pondering this week. Are you living each day doing what you want, or what someone else requires or wants?  For example, if you want to spend time reading, or doing art, or taking a walk, do you do it?  Or do you tend to defer to what other people…

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My Husband Has The Disease Of Alcoholism. Should I Accept That?

By Leslie Vernick | October 3, 2018 |

Morning friends, This is my 500th blog. Whew. Each week for almost 10 years I’ve been answering someone’s question and each week I get lots more questions. I’ve so appreciated all the community and support you give one another here. Thank you. Some of you are going to the 2018 CONQUER Conference. I would love to meet you and have…

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I’m Sinking Into Despair And I Don’t Know How To Get Out

By Leslie Vernick | August 8, 2018 |

Morning friends, I’m here in Chicago for a few weeks visiting family. I am appreciating the cooler weather but I am getting homesick. Getting out of my regular routine and surroundings is good for a bit, but I’m a regular habit girl and I can never seem to find my stuff living out of suitcase for 5 weeks. But next…

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Our Finances Are A Mess, What Do I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | October 4, 2017 |

Morning friends, Thank you for your prayers for me. Last week I spoke three times at the American Association of Christian Counselors World Conference in Nashville. For my talk, The Three Common Mistakes People Helpers Make in Working with Destructive Marriages, we had an overflow crowd, people sitting all over the floor. The response was great and I am encouraged…

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