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When Is Marital Counseling Not A Good Idea?

By Leslie Vernick | September 15, 2021 |

Morning friend, I’m heading out to the American Association of Christian Counselors conference in Orlando. I’d appreciate your prayers as I travel and speak. I’m feeling a little worn out from the last month and need some extra prayers to stay healthy and strong.  Today’s question: My pastor keeps pressuring me to try marriage counseling again. I’ve been separated for…

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Identifying and Owning Your Problem

By Leslie Vernick | November 4, 2020 |

Morning friends, Lately, we’ve been talking around the topic of responsibility and ownership. The R- Step of my CORE strength teaching. Too often as wives and mothers, we have over functioned, taking ownership and responsibility to fix or solve someone else’s problem while ignoring our own. Today’s question is another example, that I’m sure many of you will relate to.…

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My Husband Became Verbally Abusive After I Gave Birth To My Son 12 Years Ago

By Leslie Vernick | October 14, 2020 |

  Morning friends, I read a quote recently that has me pondering. It’s by Father Thomas Keating and it says, “There is no commandment that says we have to be upset by the way other people treat us. The reason we are upset is because we have an emotional program that says if someone is nasty to me, I cannot…

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Navigating A Separation Wisely

By Leslie Vernick | July 8, 2020 |

Morning friends, Summer is well underway but it feels different this year doesn’t it? We’re in the midst of history-changing moments and my hope is that it’s creating change for the better. My granddaughters left to go back home this weekend. We had fun painting and horseback riding. My prayer is that they grow up to be strong women of…

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My Husband Won’t Let Me See My Daughter

By Leslie Vernick | June 3, 2020 |

Morning friends, This blog is about domestic abuse and the abuse of power. But that abuse of power and privilege isn’t just in marriage. It’s in organizations as well. My heart breaks for our country, and I’m praying for us to be able to sit together and have compassionate conversations. There is a lot of pain and anger over another…

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My Wife’s Overreacting Because Of Her Childhood

By Leslie Vernick | May 27, 2020 |

  Morning friends, I’m sitting outside on my deck at 8 am, and it’s simply glorious. The sunlight is sparkling, the air is clean and warm, and this is definitely my happy place, especially early when it’s quiet. I hope you take the time to be in God’s creation regularly. I’m reminded of Psalm 23, where it says, “He makes…

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Do I Have A Biblical Right To Say No To Sex?

By Leslie Vernick | May 13, 2020 |

Morning friends, Thanks for your participation on the blog. That’s what makes the community. Can you believe I’ve been doing a weekly blog for over 10 years? We’ve made some progress in educating Christians and the church regarding the reality of abuse in marriage. But even on this blog, we still hear from people who believe that it’s more important…

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My Husband Is Doing His Work But It’s Affecting Me

By Leslie Vernick | April 8, 2020 |

  Morning friends, How are you doing? It’s getting a little lonely and boring, isn’t it? Yet I hope you are all safe and your loved ones are healthy. As a part of the “community,” share with all of us some of the good television series and books you’ve been reading during this time. I just finished “The Choice” by…

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How Do I Handle My Husband’s Jealousy?

By Leslie Vernick | December 18, 2019 |

Morning friends, Christmas is just a week away. Please take some time to be with yourself and God reflecting on this miracle of Emmanuel, God with us. Read through John 1 slowly. Ponder the words, “So the Word became human and made his home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness….he has revealed God to us.” What…

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