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I Don’t Trust My Husband, Should We Be Having Sex?

By Leslie Vernick | May 6, 2015 |

Hey Friends, I’m heading to Italy this week for a much needed vacation. I’ve never been there before so I’m really looking forward to it. Martha, my assistant will be monitoring the blog while I’m gone. We had an overwhelming response to the launch of my new group CONQUER. If you’re interested in a monthly support group where you will…

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Sexual Abuse In Marriage – A Real Life Experience

By Leslie Vernick | March 25, 2015 |

Morning Friends, This is my last week in California and I will be heading home the 31st. I will miss this beautiful state and my sweet grandkids, but I’m ready to get back into my own home. From time to time I hear stories from women (and men) who would like to share their experience on this blog. I’ve invited…

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Topic: My husband pressures me sexually to do things I don’t like. What’s my responsibility here?

By Leslie Vernick | July 2, 2012 |

Morning friends, I had the best weekend with my dear friend, Dee Brestin. She invited me to her home in Door County, Wisconsin for some rest and concentrated writing time. We were in bed by 8:30, up by 6am, writing until noon. I finished almost three whole chapters which encouraged me greatly. In the afternoons, we kayaked or hiked, shared…

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Does God Care More About Sex Than Marriage?

By Leslie Vernick | April 30, 2012 |

Good morning friends, Thank you for all your comments and notes encouraging me to continue writing this blog. I want to serve you and meet your needs and so I appreciate the feedback. I was in Dallas, TX all weekend speaking at the Wonderful Counselor Conference, so what I thought I’d do is share with you a blog I recently…

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Topic: Does God say I have to be sexually available to my abusive husband?

By Leslie Vernick | February 27, 2012 |

Dear friends, Thank you for your prayers. I have felt them and continue to ask God for his guidance as to pacing and scheduling. Watch your mailbox later this week. My newsletter will be coming out Thursday entitled Are you Guilty of Being Too Nice? I get many questions from women who wonder what their responsibility or obligation is sexually…

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Topic: Do I have to have sex with my husband?

By Leslie Vernick | September 26, 2011 |

Hi Friends, I’m heading off to Nashville, TN, tomorrow to attend the American Association of Christian Counselor conference. I am speaking on The Emotionally Destructive Relationship as well as Domestic Violence: An Abuse of Power. I’d really appreciate your prayers if you think of me. I’ll post some pictures on my Facebook page and put a few on next week’s…

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Topic: My husband’s a sex addict and chronic liar. How do I tell our mutual church friends why I’m divorcing him.

By Leslie Vernick | July 4, 2011 |

Happy Fourth of July Everyone, I hope you are enjoying your long weekend. I did. This has been one of the most relaxing summers I’ve had in a while. No deadlines looming and it’s a nice break. I’ve got some exciting news I want to share with you but am going to wait until the final details are ironed out.…

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Can I Withhold Sex from my Spouse?

By Leslie Vernick | September 2, 2008 |

Question: Do you ever recommend withholding sex as a consequence for destructive behavior? Laura in FL Answer: I don’t recommend a spouse withhold sex anymore than I would recommend that he or she withhold talking when angry. Touching and talking are the only channels that intimacy is expressed and experienced. If someone cuts off those channels when they are angry,…

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My husband still wants to see another woman. What do I do?

By Leslie Vernick | August 18, 2008 |

Question: My husband confessed to adultery 4 years ago and till now, he wants to cling on to his “2nd wife”. I have chosen to stay on in this marriage and not fight in the worldly sense. However I wonder if that is wrongly telling him that it is alright to carry on this choice of lifestyle? (Elaine from MI)…

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