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I Don’t Trust My Husband, Should We Be Having Sex?
Hey Friends, I’m heading to Italy this week for a much needed vacation. I’ve never been there before so I’m really looking forward to it. Martha, my assistant will be monitoring the blog while I’m gone. We had an overwhelming response to the launch of my new group CONQUER. If you’re interested in a monthly support group where you will…Read More
Sexual Abuse In Marriage – A Real Life Experience
Morning Friends, This is my last week in California and I will be heading home the 31st. I will miss this beautiful state and my sweet grandkids, but I’m ready to get back into my own home. From time to time I hear stories from women (and men) who would like to share their experience on this blog. I’ve invited…Read More
Topic: My husband pressures me sexually to do things I don’t like. What’s my responsibility here?
Morning friends, I had the best weekend with my dear friend, Dee Brestin. She invited me to her home in Door County, Wisconsin for some rest and concentrated writing time. We were in bed by 8:30, up by 6am, writing until noon. I finished almost three whole chapters which encouraged me greatly. In the afternoons, we kayaked or hiked, shared…Read More
Does God Care More About Sex Than Marriage?
Good morning friends, Thank you for all your comments and notes encouraging me to continue writing this blog. I want to serve you and meet your needs and so I appreciate the feedback. I was in Dallas, TX all weekend speaking at the Wonderful Counselor Conference, so what I thought I’d do is share with you a blog I recently…Read More
Topic: Does God say I have to be sexually available to my abusive husband?
Dear friends, Thank you for your prayers. I have felt them and continue to ask God for his guidance as to pacing and scheduling. Watch your mailbox later this week. My newsletter will be coming out Thursday entitled Are you Guilty of Being Too Nice? I get many questions from women who wonder what their responsibility or obligation is sexually…Read More
Topic: Do I have to have sex with my husband?
Hi Friends, I’m heading off to Nashville, TN, tomorrow to attend the American Association of Christian Counselor conference. I am speaking on The Emotionally Destructive Relationship as well as Domestic Violence: An Abuse of Power. I’d really appreciate your prayers if you think of me. I’ll post some pictures on my Facebook page and put a few on next week’s…Read More
Can I Withhold Sex from my Spouse?
Question: Do you ever recommend withholding sex as a consequence for destructive behavior? Laura in FL Answer: I don’t recommend a spouse withhold sex anymore than I would recommend that he or she withhold talking when angry. Touching and talking are the only channels that intimacy is expressed and experienced. If someone cuts off those channels when they are angry,…Read More
My husband still wants to see another woman. What do I do?
Question: My husband confessed to adultery 4 years ago and till now, he wants to cling on to his “2nd wife”. I have chosen to stay on in this marriage and not fight in the worldly sense. However I wonder if that is wrongly telling him that it is alright to carry on this choice of lifestyle? (Elaine from MI)…Read More