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Is setting boundaries selfish? Isn’t it better to be selfless? [Guest Post]

By Leslie Vernick | August 12, 2020 |

Morning friends, My colleague Allison Cook has written a great article on boundaries and whether or not they are selfish. I thought it would be helpful for my audience so I asked her if I could share it with you all. Question: Is setting boundaries selfish? Isn’t it better to be selfless?  Answer: Whenever I talk to women about the…

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What If My Spouse Is Mentally Ill?

By Leslie Vernick | November 4, 2015 |

Morning friends, I just returned from Dallas where I had the opportunity to be a part of a wonderful series for women on Betrayal in Marriage. It is being filmed in an old cotton mill just outside of Dallas and I think it will be a huge help for churches ministering to women who have been wounded by selfish and…

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Can I say No To Sexual Practices I Don’t Like

By Leslie Vernick | August 12, 2015 |

Morning friends, I wanted to take a little space to respond to a comment in the blog thread about something I said in a previous blog which went something like, “in every good thing there is a down side and in every bad thing there is a good side, if we will look for it.” The initial responder asked me…

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Who Gets the Final Say?

By Leslie Vernick | June 17, 2013 |

                    Today’s Question: My husband and I are very different. I am much more conservative financially, he loves to spend money. We argue about parenting, where to go on vacation, even how to arrange the furniture in the living room. His trump card is always, “As head of our home, I…

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Is There Hope For A Narcissistic Spouse?

By Leslie Vernick | January 21, 2013 |

  Morning friends, I really am enjoying the encouraging comments and sense of community we’re developing. Having a safe community where women can share their stories as well as resources is essential but even more so when you are in a destructive marriage. I just finished taping, with Michele Borquez Thornton, a DVD series for divorced women who need to…

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Setting Boundaries, Entitlement Thinking and Demanding Respect

By Leslie Vernick | November 19, 2012 |

  Hi Friends, Thank you for all your helpful comments on how the church can be more helpful in situations of abuse and destructive marriages. I am on the final stretches of writing this book and I am very excited to see how God is shaping it and putting it all together. I do not think you’ll be disappointed. I…

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Dealing With A Self-Centered Spouse

By Leslie Vernick | November 12, 2012 |

                  Good Monday Morning friends, I have been crazy busy this week and I deeply appreciate your prayers.  I’ve been doing grandma duty all week taking care of three little girls and their mama plus working on my new book.  I’m flying home Monday but wanted to let you know how much…

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When Trying Harder Becomes Destructive

By Leslie Vernick | June 18, 2012 |

Good morning friends, I am flying out very early today (Monday) to Colorado Springs to tape three different interviews tomorrow (Tuesday) with Focus on the Family. I’ll let you know when they will air but please pray for me. Pray that I am clear minded, am able to communicate wisely and that God will be glorified. Then Wednesday I fly…

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Is it unbiblical to love myself?

By Leslie Vernick | May 28, 2012 |

Happy Memorial Day friends, I want to express my deep appreciation for the men and women who have sacrificed their lives for our freedom. I also want to reach out to the mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, children, brothers and sisters, who have lost a loved one in the armed services and tell you that I am praying for…

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