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I Need More Support But Feel Stuck

By Leslie Vernick | January 12, 2022 |

Morning friend, We’re getting better at our house, not 100% yet, but better. Thanks for your prayers.  Last week’s question was about getting unhooked from other people’s toxic words and false accusations. This week’s question is about detaching from needing to control the outcome. Today’s Question: I know I need more support from outside in my marriage. It is a…

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I Have No Say. What Are My Next Steps?

By Leslie Vernick | August 5, 2020 |

Morning friends, I’m back at my home near Phoenix, and it’s pizza oven hot. Temperatures yesterday hovered around 115. But it’s been a nice change, and I got a chance to walk my 10,000 steps yesterday in our community pool, which has a walking track right in the water. I also got to visit with my granddaughters, which is always…

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My Husband Won’t Let Me See My Daughter

By Leslie Vernick | June 3, 2020 |

Morning friends, This blog is about domestic abuse and the abuse of power. But that abuse of power and privilege isn’t just in marriage. It’s in organizations as well. My heart breaks for our country, and I’m praying for us to be able to sit together and have compassionate conversations. There is a lot of pain and anger over another…

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Battling For Peace With An Abusive Ex [Guest Post]

By Leslie Vernick | July 11, 2018 |

Morning friends, I am on a much-needed vacation. I’ve invited Angela Strong, a Christian novelist to share her story about finding peace in the midst of the war with her spouse. I think you will find her story helpful and encouraging.   Though my first husband left me almost a decade ago, having kids together means I have to continue…

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Controlling abuse verses reactive abuse

By Leslie Vernick | July 16, 2012 |

Morning friends, I’ve been writing all weekend for my new book on Emotionally Destructive Marriages and because of that, I did not write a new blog for this week. But I want to share a blog I wrote for American Association of Biblical Counselors, and much of the content will be included in my new book. I would love your…

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