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More Clarity on Boundaries and Consequences

By Leslie Vernick & Co. | December 23, 2013 |

Merry Christmas Friends, I hope you are ready. If not, then let it go. It’s time to stop being frantic and remember what Christmas is all about. Over the past few weeks I’ve answered several questions about boundaries and consequences. And, from your many responses, some of you are waking up to the idea that its okay for you to…

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Stay Well, Leave Well

By Leslie Vernick | December 16, 2013 |

Morning Friends, It’s hard to believe we’re nearing the end of 2013 and Christmas will be here in a few short days. I hope you’re not getting all crazy busy and not giving yourself some moments to pause, reflect and enjoy the music and beauty of the season. Today’s Question: In the 24 hours since discovering this site, I’ve read…

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Boundaries and Consequences

By Leslie Vernick | December 10, 2013 |

Morning friends, Sorry I’m late with this blog.  It’s been that kind of week. You know what I’m talking about.  I got a new computer and I’m on a steep learning curve.  Yes, I’ve finally converted to MAC.  December is the month I’ve committed to learning this before I start traveling again in January. I’ve also been a little slow…

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I’ve Been Hit, Cheated On, And I Asked Him Those Three Questions. Now What?

By Leslie Vernick | November 18, 2013 |

Hi Friends, Please pray for me. I need to carve out more time for God, more time for solitude, more time for exercise, more time for quality writing and yet, my plate is full of wonderful opportunities that are hard to let go of or ignore. Pray I have wisdom to know what needs to go, so that I may…

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Am I Manipulative Or Am I Implementing Consequences?

By Leslie Vernick | October 14, 2013 |

  Morning friends, I put a new video up on my site home page entitled Building Your CORE Strength. Even if you’re not in a destructive marriage, I think you will find it helpful. Please share it with others. This month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you’d like to help a woman in need, here is one way you…

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My Spouse Is A Chronic Liar. What Can I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | September 9, 2013 |

                  Morning friends, I’m heading off to Nashville this week for the American Association of Christian Counselors Conference. I will be speaking several times on The Emotionally Destructive Marriage. Please pray for me. Pray for stamina and strength. The week looks to be very busy. Pray that I effectively and powerfully communicate…

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How Do I Approach My Church Leaders?

By Leslie Vernick | May 28, 2013 |

  Morning Friends, Thanks so much for your prayers. I had the best vacation. I read, rested, and recharged my spirit which was much needed. Lately, I’ve heard from many women who have been deeply discouraged by the response they’ve received from their church leaders when they’ve asked for help for their destructive husbands. I’ve taken a few things from…

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He Says He’s Sorry, Sort Of, But Now What Do I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | April 28, 2013 |

  This week’s question: I am currently deciding whether to separate from my emotionally abusive husband. After months of asking for help, his family has staged an intervention of sorts. I am trying to be positive about it, but it seems it is a little late, as I am so, so weary. I am now expected to forgive and not…

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Does God Want Me To Suffer?

By Leslie Vernick | April 1, 2013 |

  Morning Friends, This week’s topic is one that underlies most Biblical counsel women in destructive marriages receive. It is something that we must understand if we are going to wisely deal with a destructive spouse. It is the issue of suffering Suffering is universal, and we will all experience it at some point in our lives. Although most of…

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