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Does Grace and Forgiveness Erase Negative Consequences or Amends Making after Serious Sin?

By Leslie Vernick | April 13, 2016 |

Morning friends, I’m home. Although I miss the sunny California warmth, it is so good to be back to my own house and bed. This week I am doing a free webinar on Thursday night on Healing a Destructive Marriage: The Roadmap. Click here for more information.   Today’s question was written by a man who challenged my theology and I think…

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Do I Let Go Or Hang On?

By Leslie Vernick | March 30, 2016 |

Morning friends, I leave in a few days for the long drive home to PA. I’d appreciate your prayers that we have safe travels and no car problems. We’ve had such a great time with our granddaughters. I hate to leave them, yet I am ready to get back to my own bed, my own shower, my own house. Don’t…

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From Violance To Gentleness – How I Work With Physically Abusive Men [Guest Post]

By Leslie Vernick | March 16, 2016 |

Morning friends, I am feeling much better. Thanks for your prayers.  I appreciate you all so much. I’ve invited my friend and colleague, Pastor Chris Moles, who is also a Batterer Intervention Specialist with the State of West Virginia to share his heart on some of the things he does to help abusers change.   He will be my guest blogger…

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Four Ways To Overcome Evil With Good

By Leslie Vernick | March 2, 2016 |

Morning friends, Thank you for all your additions and personal examples of what constitutes abusive behavior. I have been very sick this week and unable to work  so I haven’t been able to comment, but I do want to add just a few more thoughts. I think it’s important to make a crucial distinction between an abusive incident (one-time bad…

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My Husband Wants To Control The Finances But Doesn’t Work

By Leslie Vernick | January 27, 2016 |

Morning friends, I got out in time and missed the snowstorm of the century. In our area of PA we had 36 inches. I went to Chicago to visit family and will be driving cross-country all this week. I hope many of you heard last week’s webinar on Counseling Strategies with A Destructive Person. We had a huge sign up…

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Is There Hope For A Narcissist?

By Leslie Vernick | December 2, 2015 |

Morning Friends, I want to make a few comments about the purpose of this blog. I wrote this in response to some other comments within the blog but I wanted to share it with you all. First, I am not providing personal counseling within this blog for the individuals posing these questions. I am providing, as best I can do,…

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Help, I’m Being Treated Like A Child

By Leslie Vernick | November 18, 2015 |

Morning friends, I just returned from a long weekend in Florida. The good news is I got out of Pennsylvania’s blistery weather and enjoyed some great Florida sunshine even though I was indoors most of the time for the conference. The bad news is I’m back in the cold. More and more I prefer the warm weather. Glad I’ll be…

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3 Ways To Set Healthy Boundaries In Your Marriage

By Leslie Vernick | October 21, 2015 |

Good morning friends, If you missed our webinar on “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” last week don’t worry, it didn’t happen. Technical problems got the best of us but by now you should have gotten a replay of it in video format if you signed up for it. If you didn’t receive something, just let know and we can send…

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Consequences In Action – What Worked And What Failed

By Leslie Vernick | September 9, 2015 |

Morning Friends, One of the biggest criticisms I receive about my work with women in destructive relationships is that I speak to the “victim” about recognizing her part of the destructive dynamic. To my critics, that feels like I blame her for being abused in the first place. Let me be crystal clear. If you are a victim, you are…

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