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How Do I Speak Up To My Trial Lawyer Husband?

By Leslie Vernick | November 10, 2021 |

Morning friend, Do you have a hard time asking for what you want or need from your friends? Children? Husband? Doctor? Neighbor? Pastor? Counselor or coach? I’d love to hear from you the reasons you think it’s hard for you to be direct and say what you want or need. Granted you may not always get what you ask for,…

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Our Marriage Is Getting Worse

By Leslie Vernick | February 7, 2018 |

Morning friends, I’ve been in Chicago visiting my sweet parents and siblings. Each year we all gather together for one weekend and go to dinner and a play. This is our parent’s Christmas present to us all and it’s wonderful to have time set apart to connect.  In our busy lives sometimes connecting is tough to prioritize. Study after study…

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My Husband Is Delusional And Controlling But I Want To Save My Marriage

By Leslie Vernick | December 27, 2017 |

Morning friend, I hope you had a wonderful day celebrating Jesus. I know holidays can be hard for many people, especially when marital relationships and family dynamics are tense or broken. But even if that’s you right now, can you take a bit of space this week just focusing on your relationship with God? Not with your spouse or your…

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I’ve Lost Myself In My Marriage

By Leslie Vernick | April 5, 2017 |

Morning friends, I just returned from a whirlwind weekend back in my old neighborhood in Pennsylvania where we held a shower and celebrated the upcoming marriage of the son of my dear friend. It was good to be back. It was wonderful to see our friends again but it was also a confirmation that Pennsylvania is no longer our home.…

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Moving Beyond The Blame Game

By Leslie Vernick | March 29, 2017 |

Morning friends, I wish I could meet all of you. You bless my heart the way you encourage, strengthen, exhort and support one another. It’s truly amazing. I’m reminded too, that Satan wants us to believe his lies. Lie number one is that we don’t matter, that our life is not significant, and that we are unloved and unlovable. The…

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My husband Is A Pastor, How Do I Not Pretend And Live In CORE Strength?

By Leslie Vernick | March 22, 2017 |

Morning Friends, Yesterday was my granddaughter Amaya’s 7th birthday. I am in California to celebrate all week her preciousness. We are going to paint pottery and our nails. We are going to the bookstore to read books and buy a special new book for this budding reader. We ate birthday cake and sang Happy birthday to her last night. And…

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Can Behavior Change be Enough?

By Leslie Vernick | October 26, 2016 |

Morning friends, I am in count down mode. Four weeks from now, all of our worldly goods will be loaded into a pod and our car and we will be moving down to the Phoenix, Arizona area. I’m having some moments of overwhelm. We’ve sold a good deal of our things. Yet there is still so much left. What do…

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How Do You Confront Your Spouse With His Unacceptable Behaviors?

By Leslie Vernick | February 3, 2016 |

Morning friends, I’m in sunny California FINALLY, after about 10 days of traveling by car with Grace (the dog). Our bike rack broke when we forgot they were mounted on top of the car and went under a canopy of a hotel lobby and we were stuck in Texas trying to get that fixed. Thankfully there was a wonderful car…

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How do explain my ex-husband’s behavior to our kids without making him look bad?

By Leslie Vernick | July 23, 2012 |

  Morning friends, Prayers needed. Each morning of this week, I am writing for four to five hours before starting my counseling schedule. My clients have graciously agreed to come in the afternoon all week so that I can have my best writing time free. Please pray that God would give me wisdom and flow in order to write well.…

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