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I’m Broken and Lost. What Do I Do?

By Leslie Vernick | September 7, 2022 |

Morning friend, I am in Dallas, TX this week for the American Association of Christian Counselors conference. I’d appreciate your prayers as I am speaking several times around some tough topics. Pray I can stay focused and honor God in all I say. Question: I do not normally do this, but I am lost and broken. You see when I…

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My Pastor Doesn’t Get It

By Leslie Vernick | April 13, 2022 |

Morning friend, CONQUER doors are open. If you’ve been wanting to join our online education and support group for Christian women in destructive marriages click here. We only open twice a year and our doors will close next Friday. Today’s Question: My husband and I attended a Baptist church for many years. My husband has a Catholic background I have…

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How Do I Get My Church Leaders To Get It?

By Leslie Vernick | March 30, 2022 |

Morning friend, We’re going to be opening our doors to new CONQUER members on April 12. If you know a woman who has been anxious to get in, please have her join our waitlist and attend our free workshop on April 12, “How Long Do you Keep Trying? And how do you know change is real?” Click here to register.…

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My Pastor Is Making The Situation Worse

By Leslie Vernick | June 19, 2019 |

Morning friends, Hope you have joined our Moving Beyond Challenge for this week. Today is Day Three, Moving beyond Unrealistic Expectations. The confusing part about our expectations is that often they are perfectly reasonable (at least to us). For example, it’s not unreasonable to expect our kids to listen to us, or our husband to be honest with us, or…

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T.L’s Story [Guest Blog]

By Leslie Vernick | August 1, 2018 |

Morning friends, I am back in the USA but in the next few weeks, I will be visiting family in Chicago. As lovely as other countries are to visit, there is no place like home.   Thank you, Aly, for sharing with us last week.   Today I’ve asked another woman from our community to share her story as a…

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How do I Find A Safe Church

By Leslie Vernick | May 10, 2017 |

Morning friends, Wow, we have had quite a week. We’ve had a lively and productive discussion on spiritual abuse in marriage on this blog. Last Sunday I heard a very interesting sermon on the third commandment about not taking the Lord’s name in vain which tied very closely to the whole topic of spiritual abuse. To watch it CLICK HERE. We…

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Implementing The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: Is It Worth Church Discipline? Pt. 2

By Leslie Vernick | January 14, 2015 |

Morning friends, I am in Cuba this week and deeply covet your prayers. Ask God for a special anointing on my teaching and time with these dear Cuban church leaders and pastors and that in every way God will be glorified. Also pray for my strength, stamina and my ability to sleep well. I don’t want to come home totally…

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Implementing The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: Is It Worth Church Discipline? Pt. 1

By Leslie Vernick | January 7, 2015 |

  Morning friends, I want to invite you to join my 2015 Do The Word Challenge where we are going to pick one verse per month (the verse of your own choosing) and practice “Doing it” throughout the month. Details are in my New Years Newsletter but if you didn’t get a copy, you can read more about it here.…

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The Church’s Response to Abuse

By Leslie Vernick & Co. | March 12, 2013 |

This is a re-post of an article originally written in 2 parts for my newsletters in March of 2013. I was amazed to see that no one intervened to help the oppressed. So I myself stepped in to save them with my strong arm. Isaiah 63:5 The Scriptures never invalidate or minimize the effects someone’s harsh actions and cruel words…

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