Anger

When Survival Takes Over: Breaking the Freeze Response in a Marriage Marked by Anger and Fear

By Diana Bala | August 19, 2026 |

Hello friend, I hope this summer has given you at least a few real moments of joy, sunshine, and some actual peace. I love those early-morning rays that hit me and somehow make me want to get up with a little more energy and a smile. Life keeps handing us seasons—some feel light and full of possibility, others are heavy…

I Hate My Ex Husband and Can’t Stop

By Leslie Vernick | March 25, 2026 |

Morning friend, Emotions can be wonderful and terrible — sometimes at the same time. We experience the joy of love, beauty, gratitude, and wonder, and we feel the pain of rejection, betrayal, injustice, illness, and life being hard. When you experience difficult or unpleasant feelings like rage, shame, hurt, and hatred, what do you do with them? The first step…

I Can’t Say Anything Right. Help

By Leslie Vernick | May 24, 2023 |

I am traveling this week, so I’d appreciate your prayers.  Question: The reoccurring theme over the last 3 years in my marriage has been that I have failed to communicate in a proper way or have been misunderstood, to the point where my husband’s anger gets the best of him.  I’m not allowed to ask if we can take a…

Anger Has A Short Term Purpose

By Leslie Vernick | May 26, 2021 |

Morning friends, Thanks for your prayers. I am up at my summer cabin now doing Nana Camp for a week with three of the most amazing grandchildren. We are doing lots of art projects, outdoor fun and the weather couldn’t be nicer. It’s a great place for some rejuvenation. Today’s question a reader asks:  After 47 years of marriage it…

How Do I Get My Husband To Take Responsibility For His Anger?

By Leslie Vernick | January 22, 2020 |

Morning friends, Thanks for your prayers. I had a great weekend visiting with my sister from Chicago. The weather was sunny and warm and we spent a lot of time at the pool where we could walk around the track (in the pool), talk and not break a sweat. I think I spent more time in our community pool and…

Is Numbed Out Better Than Feeling Sad?

By Leslie Vernick | January 8, 2020 |

Morning friends,   I’ve recently started taking my 3 granddaughters, ages 9, 8, and 7 hiking over Christmas vacation. Our first hike was short, about 1 and a half miles and easy. They loved looking over the mountain top, seeing the vista below. Eating snacks and being with Nana was fun too. They were game for a second hike the next…

I Hate Me And I Love Him – What’s Wrong?

By Leslie Vernick | June 17, 2015 |

Morning friends, Great news. The Village Church has apologized to Karen Root and agreed that their tactics were controlling and harsh when they implemented church discipline against her for having the State of Texas annul her marriage to Jordan Hinkley after she discovered him viewing child pornography. Karen has graciously accepted their apology and the church promised to review cases…

Moving Beyond The Blame Game

By Leslie Vernick | April 29, 2015 |

Morning friends, I wish I could meet all of you. You bless my heart the way you encourage, strengthen and support one another. Maybe someday we can have a retreat, or conference where we can all come together and meet one another, give each other a hug, have fun, share our growth and our struggles, pray together and continue to…

I’ve Been Hit, Cheated On, And I Asked Him Those Three Questions. Now What?

By Leslie Vernick | November 18, 2013 |

Hi Friends, Please pray for me. I need to carve out more time for God, more time for solitude, more time for exercise, more time for quality writing and yet, my plate is full of wonderful opportunities that are hard to let go of or ignore. Pray I have wisdom to know what needs to go, so that I may…